The Best Marriage Advice from a Divorced Woman
#1: Try to see the best in your partner, and to focus on those things as opposed to everything else.
#2. Have a lot of s*x with your partner. Even when you don’t especially feel like it. The good this will do cannot be properly articulated (only experienced).
#3: Confide in people who are in healthy and lasting relationships of their own. Odds are, they’ve been there and managed to do it well.
#4: Permit space-outs. Think of it as a deep reflection rather than ignoring.
#5: Don’t try to fix or change your partner. Take the good with the bad.
#6: Tell your partner when they’ve impressed you or made you happy.
#7: Remember that your partner chose you.
#8: Laugh at jokes even when they’re not very funny.
#9: Be accountable for your owns words and actions, but also hold your partner accountable for theirs just as much.
#10: Do some things for your partner even when you don’t want to. Even if they ask you and you shouldn’t have to. At least every once in a while.
#11: Encourage your partner to be themselves—and mean it.
#12: Keep all complaints to a minimum.
#13: Love your partner the way they want and need to be loved—not the way you think they should be loved.
#14: Put your best self forward whenever you can. Not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally.
#15: Think about the present more than the past or the future.